How I Help
When we are no longer able to change a situation,
we are challenged to change ourselves
~ Victor E Frankl
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often lie awake at night feeling anxious or experience anxiety during your every day life.
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often feel unheard and misunderstood in your relationships and interactions.
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keep finding yourself back in the same old place again, like you're stuck in a repeated cycle and nothing ever changes for long.
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feel unsafe in your body and in the world around you. Relationships and connection feel unsafe and you are afraid to trust yourself and/or others.
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feel that your past relationships and past traumas might be getting in the way of you enjoying a fulfilled life.
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feel selfish and uncomfortable when you try to put yourself first.
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struggle with conflict, ie - do you freeze and fall silent and give your power away, do you over-exert yourself and become confrontational, do you appease and fall in with whatever the other person wants of you despite what you really feel and want or do you flee from the scene and avoid conflict at all costs?
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find it difficult to say 'No' in case you hurt someone’s feelings and often find yourself denying how you really feel.
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sometimes find it difficult to say 'Yes' to yourself because you feel unworthy and undeserving.
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struggle to accept praise and compliments, ie - 'They're just saying it to be nice'
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feel really depressed and hopeless and sometimes experience suicidal thoughts and feelings.
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feel stuck and unable to let go of the past.
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feel like you're constantly giving in relationships but it never feels enough.
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feel like you've lost your confidence or your purpose and are no longer the person you once were.
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feel conflicted about the way you feel, like you 'shouldn't' feel a certain way about something.
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feel consumed by guilt and regret and are finding it impossible to move forwards.
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feel lost and alone, even when you are surrounded by people that care.
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struggle to voice your needs and boundaries and end up feeling angry and resentful when your needs aren't met by others.
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often feel more concerned by what other people think of you rather than what you think of you.
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feel shame in being who you are, like there is something wrong with you, you don't fit in or feel accepted or you feel like you are unlovable, not good enough or unworthy in some way.
It’s not always easy managing these feelings and it can feel incredibly overwhelming, painful and exhausting at times but the good news is that it IS possible to feel better and I can help you.
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Do You ...?
I Can Help You To ...
Begin Your Journey Towards Feeling Better​
It has been proven that having a safe space to talk freely without judgement helps us to gain clarity and relief from psychological distress and significantly improves how we feel. In some cases it may not be possible to take the 'problem' away but talking things through in therapy can certainly improve our thoughts and feelings towards it. When we are fully seen, heard, validated and accepted for who we are, as we are, significant change and healing can occur.
Achieve Your Goals & Reach Your Full Potential
When we begin therapy, we will establish a set of therapeutic goals that you would like to work towards achieving. I will guide and encourage you to reach your goals throughout our work together and help to normalise those moments for you when you might slip back to old ways (its ok, we all do this!). Through our work together, you will become more aware of any patterns of behaviour that sabotage your intentions and prevent you from reaching your potential. Together, we can wire in new patterns of thought and behaviour that will help you to overcome these challenges.
Find Clarity & The Right Path Forwards For You
It is often the noise of the world around us and what we think we 'should' be doing based on other people's beliefs or expectations of us, that create the greatest resistance within us from accessing or acting upon 'our truth' and prevent clarity from entering our awareness. I will provide a space where those noises quieten, away from those external influences and I will help you to find the solutions you need from a place of truth and clarity within you. I will hold space for you to reconnect with your wants and desires and offer you the autonomy to pave your own way forwards, whilst I help light the path ahead.
Learn New Skills & Healthier Coping Mechanisms​
I am passionate about teaching my clients new skills and providing you with helpful tools and strategies that you can implement in your daily life and during any challenging experiences that might present for you in the future. Whilst talking on its own can be deeply healing, I believe that developing your own toolkit and having something tangible to take away and practice, embody and integrate into your daily life, beyond the span of our work together, is an important component in your transformative growth.
Release Yourself From
Past Traumas, Past Versions of Self & Limiting Beliefs​
Having a safe, grounding and trauma-informed space to unpack and explore your past experiences can help us to identify any thoughts, beliefs and behavioural patterns that no longer serve you and help you to heal and recover from past trauma and painful events - moving from surviving to thriving. I am a Trauma-Informed therapist and so I have an understanding of how trauma impacts the mind, body and soul, how it can impact and hinder our relationships and our ability to feel safe interacting with and relating to the world around us.
Become More Self-Aware​
Self-awareness is one of the greatest allies a human can have. I can help you to become more self-aware which in turn helps you to make helpful and conscious choices in your daily life, whereby you begin to act and choose differently, from a place of consciousness and presence, rather than from a subconscious pattern or story from the past. Bringing awareness to our triggers, unhealthy patterns and behaviours and choosing to take responsibility for our own healing, can have a profound healing 'ripple effect' on our own self and on others around us, as well as a massive impact on our generations to come.
Re-Parent Yourself
A lot of what we lack in adulthood stems from what we lacked in childhood from our caregivers, whether it were intentionally or unintentionally. That child still lives within us as does the wounding we received and so by learning to re-parent yourself today, you can become that parent, that reassuring voice, that soothing hug you needed when you were a child. When we re-parent ourselves, we can dissolve unhealthy attachments to others by taking personal responsibility for meeting our own needs and we can learn to become our own best friend.
Build Confidence & Resilience​
As you delve further into the therapeutic process, you will naturally become more resilient and confident over time and better able to manage what life throws at you. It is such a great feeling of triumph for my clients as they notice themselves responding differently to situations that once triggered or impacted them negatively. Noticing those 'little wins', or more rightly said, 'HUGE wins' and regaining a sense of personal power and control is an empowering part of the therapeutic process.
Find Acceptance of Self
I can help you to re-connect with your authentic self and inner child and to also reconnect with and develop compassion and acceptance for the parts of you that you may have abandoned, suppressed or rejected in order to survive your experiences, ie - to be liked and accepted by others. You'll have the opportunity of a safe therapeutic space to befriend and feel self-compassion for these parts of you that have previously not been heard or allowed to shine. I will hold space for all of your inner parts to be seen, heard and accepted to promote and restore a sense of wholeness within you.
Recognise Your Own Worth & Personal Power
So often we feel we need to prove ourselves, to win someones approval, to change our external circumstances or relationships in order to be happy, to be 'enough'. This, you may have found, usually ends in more disappointment, more pain and more suffering and that empty void you feel within you remains empty. When we can cultivate our own self-worth, rely on ourselves for our own approval and validation and are no longer dependant on 'the external' to feel 'good enough', we are free. If this is an area you are wanting to work on, I can help you to develop a more solid sense of self, develop your own self-worth, fill that void and step into your own personal power.
Recognise Your Own Needs & Assert Healthy Boundaries
So many clients I have worked with don't know what their needs are as they spend so much of their time meeting every one else's and abandoning their own. Does this sound like you? If so, I can help you.
As you begin to re-connect with your authentic self, you will be able to more easily identify what your needs are and will learn to prioritise meeting your own needs, cultivating self-worth. As a result of your renewed sense of self, you will also develop internal boundaries and the confidence to say 'No' to unreasonable demands and say 'Yes' more to yourself.
Enhance Your Knowledge & Understanding
I have a library of information, resources, workbooks and psych-education tools that I am more than happy to share with you to aid your understanding, personal development and healing journey. For some clients, having information to read through and digest at home in your own time can be of additional benefit to your wellbeing and therapeutic progress as well as having it to refer to any time you need to, long after our therapeutic work has come to an end.
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Who I Work With
Adults (16 years +)
I have experience working with men and women experiencing a wide range of concerns. I have a particular interest in trauma healing and rediscovering oneself beyond our traumatic experiences.
If you are struggling with any of the issues below, then I would love to support you.
Anxiety
Depression and low mood
Trauma
Narcissistic Abuse Recovery
Emotional Abuse
Codependency
Relationship difficulties
Low Self-Esteem & Self-Worth
Family Issues
Work-related issues
Post-natal struggles
Grief & Loss
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I help men and women to connect with their strengths, to recognise their own worth and potentials and to harness their own personal power to live the joyful life that is their birthright. I’m less about diagnosis and more about resources; less about providing answers and more about asking the right questions, gently challenging you to find your own answers within yourself that assist you in becoming the person you were always meant to be - remembering the person you were before the world got its hands on you.
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I offer 1:1 online and telephone therapy sessions lasting 60 minutes per session.
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I work within the ethical framework of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and strictly abide by their Code of Ethics.
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I am fully insured and receive regular supervision from a highly qualified practitioner to ensure my clinical standards remain at a high level.​
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I qualified as a predominantly humanistic, person-centred therapist and have since chosen to work integratively whilst maintaining a non-directive, person-centred valued approach as this aligns very much with my own core values, valuing individuality and uniqueness of every person and every experience. I place significant value on the quality of the therapeutic relationship, whereby your autonomy, choice and safety are always at the heart of my work. Working integratively means that I can draw on my knowledge of different therapeutic approaches and skills in a way that informs our work together, whilst maintaining the person-centred values of keeping you at the core of your own therapeutic journey, tailoring your experience in a way that helps you to pave your own path forwards. It is my aim to work together in collaboration with you to find an approach that best fits your needs, your goals, your learning style and your current concerns.
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I am open to working creatively and 'outside of the box' if required with a 'not one size fits all' ethos. I believe that whilst all humans are the same (more than we might realise or like to admit) in that we all experience similar core wounds, thoughts, feelings, emotional and psychological difficulties at times throughout our lives, we are also very different and unique in the way that we each see and experience the world around us and how we internally process and relate to our own inner world too.
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I work in a compassionate, empathic and holistic way, with 'a wholeness approach' whereby I work to understand, value and support you in your entirety - mind, body and soul.​
How I Work
Work With Me
Please complete the form below if you are interested in working with me or if you have any questions about how I can help you. I will endeavour to get back to you within 24 - 48 hours.
I look forward to hearing from you!
Lucy Elizabeth PGDip. MBACP
Online & Telephone Counsellor
Working Hours
Mon - Wed
Thurs
Fri
9:00 - 20:00
9:00 - 18:00
9:00 - 17:00